2 Timothy 2:15
Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a workman who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth.
Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.
Meeting this need of healthy autonomy and Performance is all about building the competency of our children. Here these verses talk about providing adequate training to our kids for that effect.
For the parents to spend time on training means we should hold back from ourselves doing things for the kids but make our kids try doing their own things again and again. Some of us do not have time or mind set or patience to train. We better finish the task quickly by ourselves and move on.
This takes away the opportunity for the kid to learn. Some of us do not care to get involved into our kids life to that level and provide training. This requires some discipline on our part and changing our schedule for the kids sake. We all know that practice makes things perfect... or at least improves things.
There is a saying that goes like this :-
Teach me..... I will forget (5% retention)
Show me..... I may remember (15% retention)
Make me do..... I will learn (80% retention)
The research has proven experiential learning is best way for human learning. All the abilities, talents and the character you would like to build on the kids make them practice... this is much easier if you also do it along with the kid like gym trainer. These activites gets into the sub conscious mind and then the kids do it effortlessly.
How much have taken upon yourself the role of being a trainer for your own children?
Today you DO IT ALONG with your kid (like a trainer you are on the field giving them the experience of doing things) whatever you want the kid to do... may be Prayer, Bible Study, evangelism, go out and help a poor, plan on the park, do the school project or home work etc.